What no one told me about being a Mum
Prior to becoming a mum I'd been warned about the lack of sleep, the increased expense and the lack of time that becoming a mum would bring.
What I didn't know was that as Mum you absorb the emotions of your kids. When they are happy, your happiness levels go up exponentially. When they are sad, frustrated or emotional you also feel that 1000 times over.
It feels like you are always putting out fires, helping your kids with an issue, trying to help them deal with disappointments, mean kids or academic pressures. There is a lot expected of kids these days and it raises the bar on what is expected from the whole family. Your home is a safe place so kids are likely to bottle up their feelings and let them explode later on when they are with you at home.
That is a lot to deal with as a parent. Relentless.
To be the glue that holds everything together is a big responsibility.
I know how hard it is and I see how the relentlessness of parenting affects myself, my friends and my clients.
This is why it's so important for mums like me to find space for themselves- to look after their own well being, to decrease their stress levels so that they can top up their emotional reserves and to achieve better health with healthy habits such as exercise, taking time out for themselves and eating better.
It's a bloody tough job- hang in there. You're doing great.
This too shall pass!!